FAQ on asking someone out

There are few things in life are as exciting as the prospect of a new
relationship. It can be a scary thought sometimes while at the same time
lifting your spirits and giving you a better look on life. While the
initial attraction is rarely love, what it has is the promise of love to
come and that can be very exciting. But the question that remains, and
is what often frightens us the most, is how to move on from the initial
attraction to the dating stage.

The answer is not simple. First you have to be ready to put your heart
on the line by letting the other person know you are interested. There
are different ways that you can let the other person know you are
interested, whether it be in an obvious or subtle way. A good place to
start is with some innocent flirting. It doesn't have to be anything
major, maybe just complimenting them, and if your crush seems receptive
and appears interested, then the next step is to ask him or her out.

Asking someone out can seem like a big deal, but really it doesn't have
to be like that. It can be something simple like, "lets eat lunch
together today" if you want to start off slowly. Or if you are feeling
more confident or adventurous, you could try something more like, "do
you want to see a movie with me on Saturday?" Once you have put your
feelings out there in the open, you will soon know if the other person
is interested as well.

If they say "no" it is pretty obvious that they aren't in to you the
same way that you are in to them. Although this might be a bit
disheartening and feels like a kick in the guts, it is ok and you should
not see it as a fault with yourself. Unfortunately it is the risk we
take in asking somebody out. But you shouldn't let a rejection stop you
from asking somebody out in the future. Remember, because one person
doesn't return those feelings, it doesn't mean that everyone else is the
same.

Sometimes they may answer with "I'll think about it". If that happens,
don't try and prejudge what their answer will be and try not to get too
paranoid about it all. The waiting game can be very annoying, but most
likely your crush didn't see this coming, and they will need time to
sort out their feelings. The worst thing you can do here is rush them
into giving you an answer. Ideally, waiting for them to make the first
move in giving you the answer is the way to go, but if its been an
extended period of time since you asked them out, then it would be worth
just casually asking them again. Remember, an "I'll think about it"
means just that, so you need to be patient.

But if they will say "yes" then you will have a chance to at the very
least, to get to know your crush a bit better. The best relationships
start by being friends and getting to know each other. So take advantage
of that, you never know where this will lead. Maybe you will find that
you are better off just being friends? That might hurt a bit, but think
of it in a positive way, at least you have a new friend to share good
times with. But maybe you will find that you are both well suited
together and you end up dating and sharing a meaningful relationship
together. It's the happiness you have when you find someone to share a
relationship with that makes this all worthwhile.

When it comes to the crunch, if you want to date somebody you have to
ask. Sitting around looking at someone you like and hoping that it will
come together nicely on your lap will not get you far in the love game.
Take the chance, remember you have nothing to lose and everything to
gain. You don't want to look back in the future regretting that you
didn't get to know a certain person or asked them out. Remember, you
have everything to gain by asking someone you like out including, maybe,
love!